My personal goal is to make meal prep a family fun event after nap time on Sundays because I’m finally ready to commit a big chunk of that day to cook and clean in order to create more time during the week.
But there’s a few things that have to happen before that becomes a reality. If you don’t know this yet I’m in the middle of probably the biggest identify shifts of my life – I’m becoming a minimalist.
Now, this is really HUGE for me because I’ve never been a clean person to begin with; so purging, organizing, and keeping only what’s essential to my family has been mentally exhausting. What you see in this image is the difference between my goal office and my current home office. I’ve been tackling the rest of my house this en
What’s mentally exhausting about the change is that I’m constantly having to remind myself that the work is worth it. It’ll be worth it to get rid of the excess that is preventing me from being able to meal prep with my family on Sundays.
In the past when I’ve started this change I would give up when it got really stressful and think “Meh, that’s good enough. I’ll come back to this later.” But we all know how that ends right? Well, what I’ve discovered recently is that this is my go-to action when my mind tries to keep me safe. I’ll start thinking things like “Are you sure you want to donate that?” Are you sure you won’t NEED that? Yeah, no. You’re ever going to finish this. This is too much. Who do you think you are to make a big change like this?”
All of the sudden my mind becomes hyper aware of all the excess I want to get rid so badly, but can’t seem to bring myself to do it. Why? Because THIS junk is what has kept me safe for so long. But what do I mean by that?
In this messy environment I have all the right excuses to keep me where I’m at. Having messes has always been my excuse to myself for why I’m not constantly creating and giving back to the world what I want to offer. It’s the place I self-sabotage the most. It’s a place where I’ve been able to prove to myself that I’m a failure because “I can’t even keep my house clean.” In my “safe space” I’ve managed to find comfort in my messiness and even defend it so that I don’t have to deal with the pain of change.
…because change requires being able to recognize and accept that it’s going to be hard to accept the new you.
Currently, I don’t have to work to create new thoughts about who I am. I can keep the thoughts I currently have about myself like “I’m just a messy person.” I don’t have the ability to create a new identity if I’m constantly repeating that to myself.
But I recently decided that I don’t want that life anymore. It’s exhausting carrying that excuse around. It no longer serves who I am becoming. I’m moving on to bigger and better things in my life and I just don’t want to be a messy person anymore.
One of my many new identities I’m trying to believe about myself is that “I’m a clean a person”. While I don’t yet believe it 100% I am practicing DOING all the things clean people do even when I don’t feel like it. You know what? ESPECIALLY when I don’t feel like it.
The good news is I have zero stress and frustration about food in general. That’s that’s good news for you because I’m not an organizing coach. I wouldn’t be able to help you with that even If my life depended on it right now. I’m an online nutrition and fitness coach. I recognize where my strengths are and I’m proud to offer the world what I’m amazing at. But being able to relate to your struggle (on a different level) keeps me grounded and super empathetic about how difficult change really is.
I KNOW CHANGE IS HARD, but if you stick with me I ALSO KNOW CHANGE IS POSSIBLE.
I am a living breathing example that change is possible if I can go from being a messy person to a clean person. So, let’s do this together simply because we can. Let’s do the hard work of tricking our minds to believe something we don’t yet believe about ourselves until we do.
Much love, DeeDee